― Winston S. Churchill
Being Honest With Ourselves
As people of integrity and values it is amazing what liars we can be. I know I hate it and when I called myself out, my life began to change. I found myself saying "I'd give anything to have one of those". NOT, I wouldn't give anything, it is a lie. When hoping for something great to happen I would find myself saying "it'll never happen". Is that the truth? My coach challenge is to look at the things you are saying to yourself and ask if it is true. Notice your self talk and check for lies. Some how statements like these just slide by when they are in regards to ourselves, however they are very damaging and limiting. When you recognize the lies in your self talk, reframe them, say them different, speak the truth. “When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.”
― Winston S. Churchill
I LOVE Graduation ceremonies, they are inspiring, While I was waiting for graduation to start I was chatting with a woman about what she loved and what her dream job would be. She told me she can't give herself that luxury. She told me that she has to work a job that will give her benefits and that even though she hates her job she can't dare to think about what she loves it would be too painful. It is not the first and I am sure not the last time I hear those sentiments. I know the fear, I know the desperation and believe me, I know the struggle. I am so glad I dared to dream, to hope, to believe life is more than what we are living. I dare you to entertain the possibilities. When I realized the worst thing that could happen is disappointment I said "bring it on". Dare to dream and dare to be disappointed, disappointment doesn't kill us, but stuffing our dreams just might.
Where do I start? It's been so long I don't even know what I love.
Make a list of 20 things you love and do it every day for a week.
Think about what you loved as a child? What did you play at? What made you happy?
Start there and let it grow.....
What is your belief system? or b.s.? What is holding you back from taking a step toward your dream? I can't because... It won't work... some times reality gets in the way. Re-framing our limiting self destructive cant's with "What If". What if even though it seems impossible some how some way it can work. That opens the door to other options, other possibilities. Can you think of one limiting belief that is getting in your way? How can you re-frame or re word it. Most of the time we have to convince our mind of the possibilities, speak it and make it happen. What if....
One Small Step?
I write in my book about how I blamed my husband for things that I couldn't get done. What I realized after the divorce is I was still CHOOSING not to move forward. Now I had no one to blame but myself. When you have a dream and want to move on it look at what your role is in making it happen. What are your excuses? Taking charge of your life is so empowering. What is one thing you can do today toward your goal? Your dream? One little thing?
Laurie Ann Hardie