My niece was married this past weekend and it was picture perfect in every way. It reminded me of my daughters wedding. Which was perfect too. But after the wedding when all was said and done, I went home to any empty house. It was late at night, so making calls didn't seem appropriate. It was before facebook, and i remeber the impact of marrying my daughter and no one to celebrate it with. I am okay now and it is fun to remember the wedding and the perfect day. But i just remember the lonliness afterward. Just wondered if anyone else has had a similiar single parent adventure.
Today I ran into an old friend and we spent hours visiting. It was so wonderful to catch up. It reminded me of how far I have come. Some times I get caught up in "today" and forget about all the things I have overcome. It was nice to reflect back on good times and some not so good times. We agreed about how important our support systems have been. Church, community, friends, family and more. We really can't do it alone. This wonderful woman saw me through a difficult time in my life. She helped me read between the lines, holding my hand so to speak, validated me, reminded me and kept me grounded in "knowing what I know" she helped me through. We lost touch and got on with our lives and then years later connect and pick it up like no time had passed. T
Marlee shares a story on the audio blog about a single mom she "ran into'. Roxy became a great friend and taught a lesson that Marlee shares about learning to receive. I was most impacted by the activity Roxy did with a group of women. She asked how many were "givers" they all raised their hands. She asked how many were recievers? One woman raised her hand. She brought the woman who was a reciever and one who was a "giver" to the front of the room and gave them each an empty cup. She went to the giver and asked, can I give you some water?
She said "Oh no, I am fine" Then Roxy went to the reciever and asked, would you like some water and she said "SURE". Roxy left and when she returned she said she had been on a journey and she was parched. Tired and thirsty. She went to the "giver" and asked, do you have any water you could give me? You guessed it, the one who loved to give had nothing to give. Then she asked the "reciever" would you have any water you could give me? and again, she emphatically said "SURE". Ebb and flow, give and recieve, or maybe it is recieve and give?
Laurie Ann Hardie