As single parents this is something we are all very familiar with. Getting our feelings hurt. When one parent is favored over another. When kids ((even adult children)) are trying to get the love of the parent that hasn’t been there for them, it is natural, but hurts so much. This week was a very tough emotional week. A new grand baby, the new family setting boundaries, the new grandma respecting them. Realizing the lack of communication, all the maneuvers to not hurting feelings that end up hurting more. Hurt feelings have become a fact of life. I am learning that it is what i do with them that will impact my relationships. First I feel them and cry. Then i realize what my kids have gone through because of the divorce and being raised in poverty by a single mom. ((Not an easy childhood)) Then i realize that they are amazing adults setting boundaries with the parent that can and will respect them and this is a good thing. There is always room for growth, learning and maybe conversations that will open more doors to a better relationship. Have your feelings been hurt? Go ahead and share this is a safe place... change the names to protect the innocent. Did i mention venting... thank you to my dear friends who let me vent and love me and my family unconditionally.
Callie Lynn Berry was born after a very short labor Saturday night at 8:26pm. It was love at first sight. I am so proud of Jenna and Michael they are already wonderful parents. When the family gathered at the hospital we were nothing more than a family, all the past, all the hurts, the divorce the disappointments all down the drain. Welcoming a new member of the family sort of makes me want to be my best self and rise above any pettiness. I wanted to be there, i wanted to be the first to hold her....I wanted to be the most important... but i soon let go of that and realized this little lady has a ton of people who will love and adore her and that is suddenly all that matters.
Laurie Ann Hardie